We’re living in a world where our phones are practically an extension of our hands, and social media has become as essential as that morning cup of coffee (or tea, if that’s your vibe!). I’ll admit, it used to be the first thing I’d check in the morning, even before my feet hit the floor.
Social media is where I’d catch up with friends, share my thoughts, and stay in the loop with what’s happening in the world. But after more than a decade of scrolling, liking, and posting, I noticed something: while social media can bring us closer, it can also leave us feeling, well… a bit “meh.”
So, how do we navigate the digital jungle without letting it mess with our mental mojo? Let’s dive into how social media affects our minds and explore some fun ways to stay connected without the negative “feels.”
Social Media: A Double-Edged Sword
Social media is fantastic for keeping in touch with friends across the globe, finding people who geek out over the same things you do, and even discovering new opportunities. But on the flip side, it can also be a source of stress, anxiety, and that dreaded FOMO (fear of missing out).
Have you ever felt like you’re always one step behind or not doing enough because your feed is filled with perfectly curated snapshots of everyone else’s life? Or maybe your mood sours because you’re bombarded by negative news. Yep, I’ve been there too.
What’s Going On In Our Brains? The Neuroscience of Social Media
If you’ve ever wondered why social media impacts our moods and mindsets, I’ve got you covered with some geeky neuroscience insights.
When we get a like, a comment, or a share, our brains release dopamine—a feel-good chemical that not only makes us feel great but also makes us crave more. But here’s the catch: just as quickly as our brains light up with joy, they can spiral into negative narratives when we don’t get that validation we’re hoping for. One minute you’re on a dopamine high, and the next, you’re wondering why your post didn’t get more likes. It can definitely become an emotional rollercoaster ride.
My Social Media Clean-Up: Out with the “Meh”, In with the Positive Vibes
I remember the day I realized that some social media platforms were becoming more of a drain than a positive experience. Between the endless negative news and some over-the-top “look at me” posts, I found myself feeling antsy and agitated. It was the weirdest feeling—what used to be fun and engaging was now a source of pressure and angst.
I tried cleaning up my feed, muting certain posts, and even unfriending some folks. But the vibe, sadly, didn’t change, nor did my feelings. So, I made what I considered a bold move: I said goodbye to Twitter first. Then went Facebook, and last, Instagram.
As I hit “delete account,” I feared having a serious case of FOMO. What if I missed something important? What if my connections thought I was bailing on them? The “what ifs” came fast and furious, but that didn’t stop me from bidding those platforms a fond farewell.
Now, I haven’t ditched social media altogether. I decided to stick with LinkedIn because it feels more aligned with who I am and what I value. Not to mention, to me, it has a better vibe and energy.
I don’t miss Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. As a matter of fact, the minute I deleted my accounts, I felt an unexpected wave of relief. The angst and negativity I’d been carrying around vanished—a good sign that I was doing the right thing for my mental well-being.
Tips to Keep Social Media Fun and High Vibing
By no means am I suggesting you delete all your accounts. Social media does serve some good purposes. But I’d love to share some light-hearted tips to keep it fun and positive:
1. Set Your Social Media “Happy Hour”
– Instead of mindlessly scrolling, set a specific time to check your feeds. It’s like having a social media “happy hour” where you can catch up without getting lost in the digital abyss.
– Follow accounts that make you smile, laugh, or feel inspired. And don’t be shy about unfollowing or muting those that don’t. You’re the curator of your feed, so make sure it jives with you.
3. Take a Social Media Siesta
– Occasionally, take a break. Whether it’s for a day, a weekend, or just a few hours, unplugging can do wonders for your mental clarity. You might be surprised at how refreshing it feels!
4. Check-In with Yourself
– When you log on to social media, check in with how it makes you feel. If it’s bringing you down, it might be time to reassess how you’re using it. Being mindful will help you choose what’s best for you.
– Instead of just scrolling, try engaging! Leave comments, share your thoughts, and connect in ways that feel genuine. It’s like turning a virtual nod into a real conversation.
Finding Your Balance in the Digital World
Social media isn’t going anywhere, but with a little mindfulness, it doesn’t have to mess with your mental health. By setting boundaries, curating your feed, and staying in tune with your feelings, you can enjoy the best of what social media has to offer—without the negative side effects.
So, go ahead and find your balance. And remember, I’m here and I’m listening if you ever want to share a thought or ask a question. Until next time, stay well and keep doing the things that make you #unstoppable.
