Sometimes a single conversation can split your career into “before” and “after.” For me, it was a job interview I didn’t get—and the feedback that followed. What should’ve been just another professional disappointment ended up shifting the entire trajectory of my work, my mission, and my leadership philosophy.
It also led me to create what I now call The Personal Power Code, a framework designed to help women stop being overlooked and start owning their presence in every room they walk into. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of being “too much” and “not enough” at work, this story—and this shift—was made for you.
The Job Interview That Broke (and Built) Me
I interviewed for a role I knew I was qualified for. I’d done a higher-level version of the job at a previous company. I had glowing reviews, strong relationships, and a clear vision for the role. I walked into that interview confident and ready.
And then I didn’t get the job.
That alone wasn’t the crushing part. The crushing part was the feedback I received—a tangle of contradictions delivered with zero clarity or care. I was told I talked about myself too much. Then moments later, I was told I didn’t highlight myself enough. I was, essentially, both “too confident” and “not assertive enough” at the same time.
It hit me like a ton of bricks: this wasn’t feedback. This was a polite brush-off.
Realizing the Double Bind
In that moment, something clicked. I wasn’t just being passed over. I was being asked to play a game I could never win. Because like so many women in the workplace, I was stuck in the double bind: where confidence is punished, humility is ignored, and clarity is nearly impossible.
Men who show up like I did are seen as bold, decisive leaders. Women? We’re seen as too loud, too ambitious, or somehow “not quite right.” And trying to strike the perfect balance only leads to burnout and invisibility.
Taking Control of My Career Narrative
That interview was the worst moment—and the best. Because it forced me to stop waiting to be chosen. I finally realized I couldn’t be silent, adaptable, and “nice” enough to get promoted.
I had to become visible. Unapologetically visible.
So I asked myself: what if my goal wasn’t just to be the most qualified candidate? What if my goal was to build a personal brand so grounded in who I am that no one could ignore it—even if they didn’t always like it?
From Invisible to Irreplaceable
I left the company that couldn’t see me. And I started building a business that could help other women do what I had to figure out the hard way: advocate for yourself, define your leadership identity, and craft a narrative that speaks for you before you even enter the room.
This work turned into a movement. I created a free masterclass called Invisible to Irreplaceable that teaches the exact mindset and strategy I used to reclaim my voice, my brand, and my career path.
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Why Women Still Aren’t Seen as Leaders
The truth is, we lose most women at the manager level. That’s the career stage where visibility becomes crucial—and where women are most likely to be overlooked. Because if you’re not visible, you’re not on the radar. And if you’re not on the radar, you’re not getting promoted—no matter how great your work is.
We’re told to focus on the team, lift others up, and not make it “about us.” But then we’re critiqued for not self-promoting. We’re told to lean in, but not too far. These contradictions wear us down and box us in.
The Personal Power Code: A New Way Forward
That’s why I created the Personal Power Code—to give women a new framework for visibility and leadership that doesn’t require them to change who they are. This isn’t about faking confidence or memorizing talking points. It’s about rooting your leadership style in truth, clarity, and personal agency.
Inside the Power Code, I help women uncover what already makes them magnetic—and then teach them how to turn that into influence, authority, and impact.
What Would Change If Every Room Remembered You?
Here’s a little exercise I want to leave you with—one I’ve returned to again and again:
What would change for you if every room you walked into remembered you?
Think about that. Journal on it. Sit with it. Because once you start to see yourself as memorable, powerful, and worthy of space—you start showing up like it. And that’s when everything shifts.
Final Thoughts: You Are Your Best Strategy
If you’ve ever been told you were too quiet, too confident, or just not “quite right” for the next level—this is your reminder: the problem isn’t you. It’s the system. But systems can be rewritten, and narratives can be reclaimed.
Lead with clarity. Show up with presence. And if no one’s picking you—pick yourself.
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Until next time, keep showing up and keep thriving.
